Essential Guide for Dads-to-Be | What to Know During Weeks 20-23

Your baby is growing rapidly during this period, and your partner’s body continues to go through many changes. In this edition of the "Essential Guide for Dads-to-Be", we’ll cover some key topics that you should focus on over the coming weeks. Let’s dive in and gain more insights into what your partner and baby are experiencing.

Pregnancy is a long journey, but the shared effort of preparing for your little one can make this experience truly special.

Key Prenatal Checkup: The Anatomy Scan

Between weeks 20 and 24, your partner will undergo one of the most important prenatal checkups—the anatomy scan. This detailed ultrasound helps check your baby’s brain, heart, limbs, and other vital structures for any abnormalities.

This scan can be nerve-wracking for many moms-to-be, and it can take some time to complete, so it’s a great idea to go with her. Not only will your presence help relieve some of her anxiety, but you’ll also get the exciting opportunity to see your baby in real-time, possibly in 3D or 4D! It’s a precious moment you don’t want to miss.

Understanding Placenta Position

After the anatomy scan, the ultrasound report will include information about the placenta position—whether it’s anterior, posterior, or low-lying. The placenta’s position isn’t something to worry too much about at this stage since it tends to move as the uterus expands.

As your partner’s pregnancy progresses, the placenta will likely shift into the proper position by the time she’s ready to deliver. So, be patient and trust the process!

Common Pregnancy Symptoms

Leg Cramps

Around this time, your partner may start experiencing leg cramps, especially at night. These cramps can be quite painful and are often caused by weight gain and the growing pressure on the blood vessels in her legs. Factors like calcium deficiency, exhaustion, or staying in the same position for too long can also contribute.

If your partner wakes up with a leg cramp, try this: gently stretch her legs straight and flex her toes toward her head. Hold this position for 1-2 minutes to ease the pain.

Also, make sure she’s getting enough calcium by taking supplements (around 600 mg daily) and eating calcium-rich foods like milk, eggs, tofu, and fish.

Breast Changes

You may have noticed your partner’s breasts growing larger, and her nipples and areolas becoming darker and more prominent. These are normal changes as her body prepares for breastfeeding.

Consider going with her to buy a supportive maternity bra. Look for bras with wider straps and adjustable clasps to ensure maximum comfort. Also, during intimacy, be mindful of her sensitive breasts to avoid causing discomfort or triggering contractions.

Mood Swings

Some women experience heightened emotional stress during pregnancy, feeling uninterested or easily upset. This is largely due to hormonal shifts and physical discomfort.

She may be aware of her mood swings but unsure how to control them. Be patient and supportive—offering her a snack can help balance blood sugar levels and prevent mood dips. Taking a walk together after meals can also boost her mood by releasing endorphins, those feel-good hormones. You’ll find that as her mood improves, it will lift your spirits too!

Important Things to Consider

Bonding with Your Baby

By this stage, your baby’s hearing is developing, and they can recognize some sounds. This is a great opportunity to start talking, singing, or reading to your baby. While your little one might not fully understand what you’re saying, they’ll begin to recognize your voice, creating a special bond from the moment they’re born.

You can also gently rub your partner’s belly while speaking to your baby. The baby’s sense of touch is developing, and they may even respond with tiny kicks, letting you know they feel your presence.

Exercise for Well-being

Staying active during pregnancy has multiple benefits. It can improve circulation, help manage weight, reduce the risk of pregnancy complications, and relieve stress. If your partner’s doctor has given the all-clear for exercise, encourage her to stay active.

Pregnancy-safe exercises include walking, prenatal yoga, and low-impact strength training. You can join her in these activities to offer support and ensure her safety. Exercising together can motivate her to stay consistent and give you both a chance to unwind and bond.

If you have the time, accompanying her during workouts is a great way to ensure she’s safe and protected. Your presence will not only give her confidence but also strengthen your emotional connection during this special time.